All else being equal, it's good to avoid creating awkwardness. But too much awkwardness-avoidance can be harmful.
Lately, I've been trying to accept a bit more awkwardness (rather than reflexively avoiding it) in cases where I think doing so can produce value.
Here are four areas where I'm leaning more into awkwardness:
1. When asked for feedback on a project (and I think it will fail), I'm usually tempted to focus on what I like about it.
I've now become more likely ...
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On Emotionally Reactive Traits: a hidden cause of drama and ruined relationships
Have you ever known a well-intentioned, kind person who had a pattern of creating interpersonal drama? I've known quite a few people like this, and they've often baffled me. Why would good people engage in behavior that systematically destroys relationships?
After spending a while thinking about my past experiences with such cases, I now have a name for a cluster of traits that I believe, in at least some of these cases, help explain what's going on.
I call this cluster "Emoti...
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